Monday, October 12, 2015

PARENT TRAP

     I remember my first born son as a wobbly, chunky, slobbering baby who stood up to conquer one of the major milestones in his life…walking. As a parent I was both excited and frightened. I wanted him to walk but at the same time I didn’t want him to fall. My first initial thought was to stand right next to him so that when he did fall over I could catch him and keep him safe from the physical and emotional pains of failure. But I knew that if I did that, then he would never learn how to walk on his own…he would never grow. So, instead I let him fall…and when he did, I was there to sweep him up in my arms to comfort him and dry his tears.

     As a parent I long to keep my children safe from pain and to give them everything in their life they desire to make them comfortable, but I know that it doesn’t do them any good. If I continued to feed them bottles, give them everything they ask for, carried them everywhere we went so that they would never have to do anything for themselves…not only would they become spoiled little brats but also they would never become all that God desires them to be. I would be stunting their growth in every way: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. They may kick, scream, and throw tantrums to get what they want but as a parent it is important to stay strong and give them only what they need instead of what they always want…even if it means they become angry at you.

     As a Christian it is easy to get angry and blame God for everything in our lives. We get mad because we pray for things to happen in our approved ways and when things are not answered to our liking we kick, we scream, and throw our tantrums to get what we want...even though it doesn’t do any good. I know these moments must be so hard for God because I know that they are hard for me when I deny my children of something that will provide them comfort or enjoyment even. But I also know that God knows better than we do.

     If God gave us everything that we wanted not only would it make us ungrateful, spoiled little brats but the thing that we may want, might not be the right things that we need. God knows what we need even more than I know what my children need. He sees the very depths of us and knows the outcome of our prayers. Also, if He did everything for us then we would never grow. Sometimes we need to walk through things on our own in order to grow, with Him by our side to dry our tears and comfort us after we fall.

     Instead of blaming God and remaining angry towards Him, it is vital to trust God to be the good Father that He truly is in our lives. He knows what we need to survive even before we ask and He knows what we need to thrive. Even if things happen that truly hurt…there is purpose in the pain and He never wastes our pain. When we put our full trust in Him it is hard sometimes to thinks that what He does is good, but ultimately He knows the outcomes…and honestly He really does have our best interest at heart. HE IS A GOOD, GOOD FATHER!!!

Matthew 7: 9-11, “What man among you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!”



Because with out Him, there is nothing else,
Tiffany Wasson

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